Posted by Craig Growing up - I was 'taught' [By an alcoholic father and an extremely co-dependent mother] that I am responsible for how people feel and for the choices they make. I was taught that I must sacrifice MY feelings - regardless of the cost to ME - to make or keep someone 'happy'. I was taught that I had the power to cause someone to commit suicide. ["Watch what you say to your brother - I'm worried he might kill himself."] And because of all of the above - I find it so very difficult to say 'good-bye'. I've had people in my life that I didn't like at ALL - for YEARS - because I felt that I had no choice. It's no wonder I fear having people in my life. Even as I write this I am struggling with whether or not I have the right to say 'good-bye' to a 'friend'. I don't want to hurt HIS feelings - of course - even though he far too often hurts mine. How does one get beyond that? I feel so guilty even asking that question. "You have no right to do what's best for YOU!", so scream the voices in my head. "What if HE really NEEDS YOU?" I have had people in my life who considered ME their 'best friend' that I didn't even like. I just kept praying that they would want to leave ME or move away or something. Any thoughts? Thanks,
on July 29, 2007, 5:00 am
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Hi Guys!! 
GREAT BIG HUG
Craig!!
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