Posted by jan
on December 15, 2008, 12:57 pm, in reply to "Re: Christmas memories"
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(((Ruth))) I understand. So do the rest of us. Get through the holidays the best way you can, that's the only advice I have to give.
This is the tenth Christmas without our beloved Lora... and this *^$&% month doesn't get any easier for me. The other months, yes. This one... not yet. It's a double-whammy with her bday and Christmas in the same month.
We decorate outside our home, and at the cemetery, but neither one of us cares much for decorating inside. Now that we have 4 dogs & 1 cat it just gives me a good excuse not to put up something they'll take down 
The only real effort I put out for Christmas is the yearly Christmas letter & poem for those grieving. Our daughter Crystal & our grandkids live on the other side of the country from us, as do all of our relatives on both sides, so it's just us & the animals.
You'd think that made it easier (as I don't have the expectations from others that most of you have), but it is agonizingly lonely.
The holidays are just hell for a grieving parent. Plain and simple.
Ruth, I think you and your hubby will find it incredibly enriching to give Lisa a gift this year (by sponsoring those families) -- I know it always always helps take the edge off for me.
Hang in there, ladies. January's coming.
love,
jan
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