Posted by jan
on December 17, 2008, 1:42 pm, in reply to "Re: ps"
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We have both video and the audio tape I mentioned, and I used to listen & watch semi-frequently. Now it's been years.
I think those of us who do have these things should go ahead and have our celebrations with family/friends Christmas eve.... and when everyone is gone (or gone to bed), watch the videos/listen to the tapes that night..... let ourselves cry..... let ourselves remember all the joy they brought over the years we had with them..... in the midst of the pain of losing them, remind ourselves that we were blessed to have them AT ALL, and let ourselves be grateful -- (I would rather suffer this agony, and have had Lora, than never to have had her or known her at all.) In other words, let the last hours of Christmas eve be our own private memorial in honor of our beloved children.
Then Christmas morning/day... honor the living by "being there" as much as our heart can handle.
This way we have spent time honoring our child who is gone from us... and the next day honored their wish that we give our love *on their behalf* to their living brothers/sisters/aunts/uncles/friends.
Just a thought.
hugs,
jan
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