Posted by patti
on April 17, 2009, 10:12 am, in reply to "Re: Difficult days....."
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Ladies, we will never recover from the death of our child. Before Bobby died, I never knew this fact, but now I know it to be true. We have to stop trying to recover from it, and we need to learn how to live with the pain of the loss. It is just like Bobby's back pain. He hurt his back on the job as a firefighter, and for years he suffered intensely from the pain, but he learned to live with it - moving slowly at times, waiting until the pain would temporarily pass, and enjoying the days when the pain subsided. You know, that is what we are going to have to do. There will be days when the pain is too much to bear and we will just have to endure those days, and there will be days when the pain eases up. We will have to enjoy those days as best we can. With God's help, and in Jesus name, we must live our lives until it is our turn to go home and be with our child again.
Sometimes, I just pretend Bobby is out of town on a long trip having a wonderful adventure. I know that sounds like unhealthy thinking, but I imagine him meeting my grandparents and having great days with my Mom and my brother. It helps me forget for a little while that he isn't coming back here, but that I will have to go there someday to join him.
Love, Patti
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