Perhaps they learned that from me. I walked away from a marriage at 33, resolved that no man was going to raise his hand to me or my kids. It wasn't a long standing problem, tho he'd always had a hot temper. It was one that arose from increasing pressures of his career moves, and of our raising a growing family, and of a relationship of uneven growth. He was in retail during that time, I spent a lot of time alone. I was no longer satisfied to be a housewife, the minute my youngest went to school I enrolled in college. I was looking outward to the world after 15 years at home. He found this very threatening. When his frustration boiled over into physicality, I was gone.
My children are all now between 50 and 60, nearing retirement age themselves. All have had their education and careers. They have built what they have built and they are now doing what they want career-wise and also what is needed, i.e., helping to care for their disabled brother so he can stay at home and not be institutionalized. They are warm, loving people. Ultimately, that was my goal.
Getting back to parents' poor decisions, minors are not supposed to end up "out in the cold." It's against the law. The kids I referred to in my last post were all minors. There are no two sides to THAT story.
What about adult children taking care of parents? My resident children make my life, and my son's easier. There is no way I could manage to take care of him myself. And if I even tried, I'd be stuck in this house 24-7 and up all night. As it is, someone is always here to help, and because of this I can have my own life. I go where I want when I want, and I do what I want. Plus, someone's always making sure that I'm OK. I think it's like they used to say: What comes around goes around. What you give out you get back.
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