
If I were to take your approach, that (to me) would mean I am 'holding it over him for the rest of his life'. I'm not willing to do that. Once the case is adjudicated and the penalties paid, as far as I'm concerned, it's more or less clean slate, and move forward.
Also, I feel like you're assuming this is another Ray Rice situation, when the truth is, none of us really know what's on that video. I might be wrong, but I think that if the situation were as bad as you're assuming, he'd have gotten a lot worse in terms of criminal penalties than what he ended up with. I'd probably feel differently if there were actual video evidence of a far worse crime, and he got off as light as he did. But the fact that the prosecutors/DA/etc. could see that video (which they did), and agree to the deal they made with Jacob's attorneys (which they did), tells me that the video is pretty much a nothingburger...
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