Re: Why some don't want kids....
The few years between us made vast differences in a very short time. I guess I was sort of on the cusp with one foot in both. I remember being on the bus to the city to a clinic for my second child and reading about the availability of a birth control pill. In a very short time, it changed women's attitudes toward sex and where fear of pregnancy had once held them in check, they were like rabbits and "free love" became common. In the early 60's, average married women with children didn't work. If they did, it was a menial part time job that didn't interfere with childcare. When I took a full time job with children 2 and 6 Mo., I took a lot of flack from my peers because of it. The workplace started opening up and women were given a chance to do more than be secretaries or file clerks and salaries, although not equal to a man's, increased. As they did, where once a man's average weekly salary was enough to carry an apartment, it now took two or more weeks and women who might have previously stayed home with the kids were now forced into the workplace to maintain the same lifestyle and be able to have a little extra. I did not have my first child until I had been married almost eight years..the women I graduated with started having them right out of high school. I was amazed myself when they mentioned how many they had..it was not one or two women who might have had excessive maternal yearnings..it was almost everyone. I was an exception with only two. My best friend had six. Her husband dropped dead at 36 of a heart attack.
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