With my son's father I knew right away she married him in desperation, for what he had and not for love. Her ex had remarried and moved upstate with his new wife and kids leaving her to raise their two sons alone. He did pay child support but she made little money so lived with her mother in an apt in Ridgewood. Her mother owned a 2 or 4 family house there (forget which). She could not afford her own place. She was in her 30s already when she met my ex and please, no comments people, a very physically unattractive woman with a strange squeaky voice. My ex-was already sick when they met but he owned a house worth a lot of money, had quite a bit of savings and worked for the TA so made good money. He also was to retire with a really good package so she and her young sons would be set for life. She was 10 yrs younger than him and her boys were young teens. Shortly after they married her mother died and she and her sister inherited the house. They sold it and she came out with "a nice sum of money" I was told.
I learned from a mutual friend in MV that she not only got rid of my son as fast as possible but gave away all the things he owned that he had stored in the basement there. She needed the space for a huge amount of her and her son's stuff. Boxes and bags of stuff. I remember seeing the basement when I went to visit him in NY after they married. It resembled a hoarder's basement. She had put him out of his bedroom so her son's could have the larger bedroom.
She refused to cook the special meals my ex needed for his chronic colitis and other GI issues. She only cooked what her sons liked. He soon grew sicker which I can't help wonder if she wanted. So he would try and eat out but the bland diet he needed was hard to find in restaurants. It was obvious to our mutual friend she married him for what he had because she showed no concern for his health or his son.
He on the other hand, was getting older and sicker and she was the 1st one willing to marry him. He told XXXX he didn't want to be alone anymore. That he wanted someone in the house with him and he did like kids. At that point I don't think he cared about her looks or irritating odd voice. Two others he dated turned him down. One he dated for 7 years and we all knew he loved her. But she refused to marry him for the same reasons I left him. Plus she didn't need what he had and she had no children. She was also very attractive.
Life isn't fair and there is no justice in this world. I have to wonder if this isn't the reason my son has become so angry and bitter. I don't know that I wouldn't feel the same if this happened to me.